Why is my ex being so nice to me all of the sudden?

He has never treated me very good. Actually he has treated me pretty badly. He was not there for me when I lost our baby last December 13th. He treated me like I lost our baby on purpose. I was so devastated that I fell into a deep depression. His mother even asked him if he was going to come see me in the hospital and he told her no. She was always telling me I should leave him because he doesn’t care for anyone but himself. I wouldn’t listen!

Then on Christmas Eve I showed up at his house like Santa Clause and I brought him allot of gifts as well as a stocking stuffed full and he didn’t even get me a card..I asked for a cheap little friendship ring.. nothing expensive. I wouldn’t have cared if it only cost him $10. but that never happened.

Then when Valentines rolled around I bought him a heart shaped chocolate cake that said "I love you Jeremy" and I wrote him a sweet poem and gave him a card. And again, he never even gave me a card or a single carnation (which I would have been happy with).. nothing. Months went by and I found the card and poem in his closet unopened! He didn’t even care enough to read what I took my time in composing for him. That really hurt.

Then July rolls around and it’s his B-day. I got him a really nice gift and a Harley Davidson cake and a really awesome card that had the song, "Just to see you smile" "I’d do anything that you want me to do". He loved it. Then he ignored me when it was my B-day just a month later.

I am really tired of putting any more effort into this relationship. I am so tired actually, physically and emotionally. He has taken just about all that I have.

I have tried to prove to him how much I love him and nothing ever worked. I have helped him when he is falling down drunk and can’t get into bed. I would have to undress him and put him in bed. I used to go get food for him when he was too drunk to get to the store. I gave him massages when he ached and foot rubs with lotion. I pretty much babied him.

He repayed me by constantly standing me up and ignoring me when I needed him most and then by cheating on me more than once, which he was caught red handed doing.

I am not blaming him for any of this… I allowed it. I was stupid enough to keep giving to a man that just kept taking.

Anyway, tonight he calls me up and asked me if I would like to go the movies this weekend! Something he has done only once in 14 months. WE haven’t spoken in 3 weeks. Why all of the sudden be nice? Is it because Christmas is coming around and he is hoping I’ll be like Santa again? I mean really does he honestly think I am THAT stupid? He probably does just look at my track record
I really liked everyones answers except for Lovetotalk’s. I think though that I want to try to give him one more chance. Maybe he really does love me, maybe he will give me the ring, maybe things will change and he will start treating me like someone he loves. But I promise this will be his last chance he gets and if he blows it and proves to me that he really is a self asorbed a**, I will never talk to him again! I am just not quite ready to give up on him yet.

You’re question brought tears to my eyes. I wonder if my ex and yours were seperated at birth lol. I dated a man just like this for 16 months..I miscarried in November and he had the audacity to tell me he "thought I was lying" and that he didn’t think it was his. A lot of other horrible stuff too…we went to the movies 2 times in 16 months and he never did sh*t for me.

First and foremost, I DONT think you were stupid for what you did. You are a kind and caring person and kindness does not go unpaid. (Even though at times, it seems pointless). Basically, you have the ball in your court and he’s scared of losing you. And he should lose you, bc you deserve better. People get comfortable when they have a good thing and don’t appreciate it. If you move on (and I guarantee that’s his biggest fear) he will freak out.

I hope you walk away soon. I finally did after my ex choked me..but it took me "that much" to finally leave.

Pls email me if you ever want to talk

anne.cooper83@yahoo.com

If you get a chance please answer my question?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agm2IgaxIBFrleOnGc6Qnqfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091207214210AAxdb2i